Here’s a confession: I have never met a man. I have met many people who identify as men, but real men? I have no idea. I do not know what constitutes a real man. I do, however, know what constitutes a unicorn: if I find a horse-like creature with a…

I am sobbing, trembling, shaking, hyperventilating into his embrace that holds me from across the world. He is here and not here, close and distant, holding and refusing parts of me that I struggle to carry. …

This is false. There are a wide variety of naturally-occurring intersex conditions that cannot be classified as either female (XX) or male (XY). Some intersex people are born with XO, XXY, XYY, and other chromosomal configurations that differ from the (XX = female) and (XY = male) binary that is…

In the span of two days I was nuzzled by a pig, kissed by a deer, greeted by a monkey, humped by a dog, and unknowingly provided shelter to a moth in my hat while visiting a rural town deep in the mountains of South America. The first three of…

“What do you think it would be like to live in a world that isn’t structured against us?” I ask my partner after a group of teenagers taunt us; one of them made an effeminate jeer when we began walking away and the rest of the group laughed. “I don’t…

I say that I am in no rush to be with him in person even though I think about being with him on a continual basis. I encourage him not to worry about me because I am more experienced with relationships than he is and will be strong for us…

An erection that lasts longer than four hours is a medical problem and yet some men act hard their entire lives. — I would like to believe that there is more to being a man than acting like a dick but I am unfortunately unable to reach this conclusion. If sex is the same as gender (i.e., if penis = male = man and vagina = female = woman), then being a…

My roommate invites me into his room and I automatically sit on the floor with my back against the wall. Others sit upon his bed and ask with concern whether I want to join them but I do not and say I’m fine sitting on the floor. I feel a…

Donald Trump is our nation’s biggest inspiration; we cannot stop thinking or talking about him. He inspires a wide range of sentiments, from fervid devotion to abject hatred and horrified bemusement. He stands for and proudly boasts what previous presidents could only sit behind closed doors to discuss. He’s a…